In an attempt to properly raise a child, most parents impose their life experiences onto them. However, we and our kids have completely different paths, different pasts, and different tasks on Earth.
Trying to impose “the right way to live” onto your child, thinking that we know better because we are “older and wiser,” we violate the commandment “You shall not murder.”
In this case, it means that it is imperative not to kill in your child his individuality, abilities, and talents. Most likely, his potential is different from yours. Otherwise, if all people were alike, life on Earth would be awfully dull and monotonous.
Happiness is never achieved by good grades or a successful career but by acquiring your own experience and self-reliance. And you can become independent only by overcoming obstacles and learning from your own mistakes.
All we can do for a child is to become a role model. When the child sees that his parents are lazy and lack initiative, he does not understand why he gets scolded for laziness. Or when he sees that his parents are arguing, how can he have a good example to follow? Can he respect such adults? Will he grow up to be a good person?
It is necessary to support the child’s self-confidence, recognize his talents and facilitate their development. Do not kill in him the ability and desire to live. Learn how to live yourself and lead your child by the right example. Then he will definitely grow up to be a good person!
Strygina, A. A.
June 2023
