When a teenager comes to his parents with questions about relationships, he often hears all sorts of prohibitions and unreasonable rules that he is eager to break during puberty. And when a child starts to rebel, hide, or run away from home, parents wonder what to do. The typical parental mentality is: "He doesn't listen to us! And we know better!"
At 13-15 years old, a person is more likely to genuinely fall in love than an adult or an already accomplished person. This is when the first, the purest connection with the soul occurs, the contact with the very light and bright that we strive to encounter as adults. At this period, Eros emerges. And it is crucial not only not to block this opportunity for the child but to explain to him the whole gravity of the event.
The most important thing in dealing with a teenager is to be his confidante. The child must feel assured that he is understood and not judged, mocked, or bombarded with jabbing comments like: "What relationships?! You need to grow up first." Remember that puberty is a very rebellious time. A wrong move and you will lose the child.
At this time, a person becomes independent, and his past comes into full force. His mistakes, as well as his right deeds, start acquiring consequences. And the parent should help him figure things out and teach him to distinguish the good from the bad. For this, you need to maintain your child's trust.
Talk to him like an adult.
Help him learn to accurately analyze the situation and choose a partner with his soul instead of his body and brain.
Do share your experience with the child but try not to forget that during puberty, he turns into an independent individual. He now has his own opinion, and you must find simple and reasonable arguments in your disputes and discussions.
Don't forget that you are still responsible for your child!
Avoid making decisions for him or imposing your opinion based on your experience, constantly pointing out that he is wrong. Lead him toward making his own decision by setting a good personal example.
Be a friend, an adviser, a parent!
June 2023
Strygina, A. A.
