Being thoughtful is especially important in a relationship, whether it is between a man and a woman, a parent and a child, etc. Most conflicts arise from misunderstanding.
We become so self-absorbed that we fail to pay attention to those close to us. It is difficult for us to remember what the person might like, what makes them happy, and, gradually, we completely lose the desire to please them. In relationships, more often than not, people throw jabs at each other in the form of demands, blame, and complaints.
Resentment, jealousy, and irritability are expressions of egoism that violate another person's freedom. As soon as I start wondering why this person forgot what kind of flowers I like or that we agreed to meet up, I immediately think of the saying: "Do not impose your expectations on people". Do not project your hopes and dreams onto others.
Yes, their unattentiveness can make me feel sad and hurt, but it was my choice to socialize with them at this period of life. And if I do not like something, I always have the power to change my destiny.
If I am ignored and unappreciated, then either I am doing something wrong, or have chosen the wrong person. I do not see any other alternatives.
And even if at the moment I cannot influence the situation, I must take a hard look at myself yet again and, while accepting the person's attitude toward me, remember about their freedom. At the same time, I must not forget about my freedom too.
The main thing is to keep negative emotions at bay and to be in the right from a moral point of view, and the situation will improve over time.
July 2023
Strygina, A. A.
