Love is the renouncement of egoism. Many people react with extreme negativity when hearing these words. Man loves himself so much that he cannot imagine loving someone else. And even if he does, he got it all wrong.
Selfishness, vanity, arrogance, jealousy, resentment... There are so many things that kill love, and, unfortunately, these qualities are associated with the idea of love of a present-day man. How to deal with all these negative character traits? By applying logic!
Do I love this person? If yes, that means I want to see him happy. So I have to respect his choice. This is how I conquer jealousy.
The chapter The Mystery of Birth of the book In the Light of Truth by Abd-Ru-Shin states that genuine love never thinks of itself but always of the well-being of the beloved one, acting in this direction even as far as self-denial.
Even if it hurts that he chose someone else, I do not want to confuse the pain of losing him with resentment. Since I respect his freedom, I realize he has the right to do what he wants, even if I think he is wrong. This is how I give him his freedom.
Am I perfect? Probably not. So his choice, not in my favor, is fully justified. Thus there is an incentive to work on myself and try to become a better person.
The correct understanding of the essence of love gives a powerful incentive to change, to work on oneself, and to overcome one's weaknesses and vices.
From the chapter Man and His Free Will (In the Light of Truth): Noble, pure Love neither knows nor desires anything but goodness for a loved one and therefore never thinks about Itself. Being a Part of the Material World, Love does not require abstinence or asceticism, but at every moment, It wishes the beloved one good and good only. It aches from his pain, suffers from his suffering, sharing with him, however, his joys.
Love does not live in a cage. If you love a person, you will do everything to not disturb him with jealousy or resentment, even if his happiness is not with you. And if for the sake of the loved one you must step aside, you will do it.
"He who in his actions always remembers not to harm his fellow man who reposes trust in him, not to do anything that may later oppress him, will always act in such a way as to remain spiritually unburdened, and may therefore be called truly chaste!" (In the Light of Truth, Abd-Ru-Shin, chapter Chastity).
June 2023
Strygina, A. A.
